I was accused this week of cramming my “gay agenda” down a throat or two. I am gay and I do have an agenda, so that part is correct. I humbly disagree with the “cramming” part however. But I want to thank that person, it got me angry enough to blog again and I have been suffering from writer’s block this summer.
Yeah, it’s going to be one of those…so if you prefer my funny childhood memories, click off here and have a good day!
For those of you still with me, here I go. I do not believe that striving for equal rights in the United States….US Constitutional rights is ‘cramming’ anything down anyone’s throat. Of course, the haters will always disagree with me. James Earl Ray probably pulled the trigger because he couldn’t stand MLK Jr.’s non-stop harping on equality for black people. Why didn’t MLK Jr. just stop that and accept his second-class citizen status? Well, he had the law and righteousness on his side, that’s why. MLK Jr. had death threats every day, but continued to get up every morning and fight for his rights and others.
Now, in no way am I saying I am on the same level as that of my hero, MLK Jr.. I like to think that growing up reading about him and my other hero, President Kennedy, that their vision was ingrained in my psyche. I feel their words deep inside of me, I feel their passion. It’s that righteous anger again.
Now the Bible, Ephesians speaks of righteous anger…that anger that is expressed in such a way as to bring glory to God. I am not a Christian, but I like to think that Christians would say that’s fighting the good fight. Fighting for equality under the law would be something that their God would think was righteous.
I will get hateful and angry comments sent to me because I just wrote the above paragraph. They will try to say that queers are going to burn in hell…even though Jesus never did address homosexuality….you can’t prove that to me.
I have to authorize all comments to be posted on my blog, so haters beware. Most of the time I do not allow your comments, so feel free to blast me to burn, but know I am the only one that will read your commentary.
I bring up religion because all the haters…uh er, Christians always want to say that the Bible says ONE MAN and ONE WOMAN. A family member “friended” me on Facebook this month, then put that as her status. Facebook is the best thing EVER in my opinion. The lying faces that smile at you at family reunions cannot resist posting their thoughts for the world to see in social media. It is a wonderful thing. She felt righteous about posting it because she was acting under her beliefs and I felt wonderful “de-friending” her, acting under mine. Win, win.
The family member felt compelled to write me an email and say that I was going to burn in HELL, not for being gay mind you, but for not following the WORD. I am glad she feels badly for me and will miss me in heaven. Like Billy Joel sang, I would rather laugh with the sinners, than cry with the saints. Is it getting warm in here??
I won’t go into my Constitutional argument for marriage equality…read previous blogs. I will reiterate that I do not want to marry in a church…yours or anyone else’s. Marriage in the U.S. is a civil contract….so keep the Bible out of it, okay?
The inevitable is going to happen, marriage equality is going to become the law of the land. I think that is why the haters are getting so angry and revving up their engines. Dan Cathey, the President of Chick Fil A, admitted recently what has been widely known for years in the gay community. He admitted that the company is against marriage equality and has made million dollar donations to fight against it.
Now, if someone makes this statement, which he has every right to make in America, you gotta know there is going to be a fall-out. He made a tactical decision to verbalize the company policy, good for him. Always good when the haters make themselves known whether in your family or at your local chicken shack.
Now imagine, someone is saying that a national business has donated millions of dollars to keep you from exercising your US Constitutional rights. How would you feel?
My family member is straight and married to a white person. But what if they wanted to marry a black person and it was before Loving v. Virginia was decided by the US Supreme court in 1967? What if the local owner of the chicken shack started mouthing off about the black person they loved and wanted to fight against their right to marry them?
The family member happens to live in North Carolina, where in 1967 it was ILLEGAL for a white person to marry a black person. The first interracial marriage in that state occurred on October 6, 1971 when John A. Wilkinson’s marriage to Lorraine Mary Turner was officially recognized, Wilkinson was black and Turner was white. North Carolina was one of 15 states that had to change their law after the Loving case was handed down. It seems my family member has probably settled in the right state for them…if you get my drift.
So my point is, I am sorry if you view my continued struggle for my rights as cramming it down your throat! I know if you were in the same situation you would act just like I am acting. That is the funniest thing about the whole deal. The downtrodden, the disenfranchised, the abused, the discriminated against ALWAYS get both sides. Why don’t the opposition see it? They do, they insist on making the religious argument when they know it is a civil right…because under the laws of this country, they know they are going to lose.
I am going to hold the course on my gay agenda. I am going to continue to lose family members in my righteous battle for equality. It is all good, I sleep quite well at night.
MLK Jr. was a man of God and a reverend. I know some of you will say that if he were here today, he would be against marriage equality. I do not think anyone can make that assumption. I will not pose an argument….I will just leave you with this quote. Get some righteous anger my friends.
“Now, I say to you today my friends, even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream. I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: – ‘We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal.”
Martin Luther King, Jr. August 28, 1963
I say, beautiful Julya…I hope you & your wife had a wonderful weekend!
Thank you for articulating your (& so many other’s) rightous anger.
Let us not forget, Jesus, if he were here today, would certainly be considered a very left wing liberal.
As he never stated specifically ANYTHING about marriage, except to turn water into wine at a wedding he attended…We can most certainly rest assured that he did enjoy them!
As I am certain that God doesn’t make mistakes, it can only be assumed that we are indeed all created equal!
What an exciting time we live in! Truly as people more fully understand what is at stake, the compassionate & loving Christian people that live in our country will see that hate is never the message.
Meanwhile, I want to know:
When did we get a chance to vote on straight people’s marriages?
Love & Joy,
Sherri & Wife, Carol
You are such an inspiration to me!!! I am on your side of the fence 1 million percent! JFK and MLK jr are my heroes as well and I believe and hope that it is in my lifetime that marriage equality does become the law of the land. Your points are valid and you are righteous in your defense. But thankfully, we are not obligated to our family bc people like THAT do not deserve to have someone as smart, witty, strong, intelligent or as wonderful as you ARE in their lives. You are educated and successful. They obviously need to find a hobby. You go girl!! 🙂
Vindictive justice is not compatible with the God of love and compassion asserted in the New Testament. The concept of hell itself contradicts the Christian assertion that God will ALWAY be victorious over evil. The idea of “burning in hell” has been, according to most modern Christian scholars, interpreted to be ultimate alienation from the “goodness and grace” of God’s eternal love. I’m with Ghandi-
“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.”
My Christ and my God love you Julya. And so do I!!! I’m going to trust in them to do the right thing, whether you are Christian or Hindu or whatev…I cannot abide man’s reinterpreted assertion of salvation or the thought that a person who had never heard the “bible” would be immune from entry into eternal paradise regardless of how good and kind and loving that person was.
PS- good to have you writing again.
I’m with you Julya,
Gay marriage is coming. The Constitution guarantees it whether anyone agrees with it or not.
As far as the religious thing goes, one thing for sure; you just can’t out hate a fundamentalist…. I learned in bible college years ago people are more inclined to believe what they are told to believe, instead of reading it for what it REALLY says.
No better way to “control” people than to scare them about dying. My comment on dying is; “I’ll bet it is a whole lot like it was BEFORE you were born!”
Gandhi said it best; ” Your Christ I like… your Christians not so much. They are nothing like your Christ”
I’m happy to call you “friend”, Julya. I hope someday to be able to sit at a table with you and have great conversations. I may not always agree with you about everything,but you have every right to speak your mind and work for equality. I do not believe for one minute that God put us on this earth to judge one another and especially in His name. So,go tell it on the mountain sister and I will gladly listen! Love ya!
Amen Sister! It’s coming. We will get equality in our lifetimes…I think very soon. Most haters will get over it eventually. Some are just now getting over inter-racial marriages (and some fanatics never will – nothing we can do about them)…you can’t change backwoods brainwashing over night. My philosophy has always been: “Let them see. They’ll get used to it sooner or later. If they don’t, screw ’em”.